While my tuxedo cat Lacy and I were looking at OHA search terms, we noticed the term “Libra moon angry.”

Lacy asked if Libra moon gets angry.

“Everyone gets angry,” I answered.

“Even Libra moon?” Lacy asked again.

“Yes,” I said patiently, “even Libra moon. Remember, we all have the same ‘whats;’ it’s the ‘hows’ that vary. We all get angry, we just get angry differently.”

“You don’t have to get angry,” Lacy said, then began licking her back.

“I’m not angry,” I replied.

“Sure you’re not,” Lacy said.

“Lacy,” I said, “I was just answering your question. I wasn’t angry. Hey, where did you go?”

The little devil snuck away. I could hear the scratching against the litter box. Once again, she got in the last word.

Anger

The definition of anger, according to Dictionary.com is: “a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong.”

The Emotional Life has a softer definition of anger, which it terms “a complex response.”

“Anger is a normal emotion with a wide range of intensity, from mild irritation and frustration to rage. It is a reaction to a perceived threat to ourselves, our loved ones, our property, our self-image, or some part of our identity. Anger is a warning bell that tells us that something is wrong.”

So anger is about being wronged, which is something unfair, or indicates something is wrong, meaning out of harmony.

Aries – Libra Axis

The planet associated with assertion of self is Mars, which rules Aries.

Aries is the first sign of the zodiac, the sign of self. Its opposite sign is Libra, the sign of the other, which is ruled by Venus, the planet of pleasure.

We all have an Aries – Libra axis where we learn about self versus others, assertion versus cooperation. When we are young, our parents remind us often to share our toys. Parents are breaking into Aries to promote Libra.

Your parents are telling you that others exist and that they have needs too.

Aries is aggressive. Aggressive behavior can cause anger in others, even if the aggression is not malicious. Aries, being aggressive, is also comfortable expressing its own anger.

Libra is passive and seeks balance. What does it mean to seek balance?

Balance is about staying in the middle of the continuum of any thought, feeling or emotion. In Buddhism, it’s the “middle way.”

Aries, on the other hand, seeks the outlier experience because that is more defining of self than the middle way, which cancels out the characteristics of the continuum.

As a personality, Libra, to me, becomes a sign of reflection. Aries is the mirror that Libra looks into to define self.

Your Libra sun and moon folks are watching what you do and are responding to it, imitating you in an effort to understand their own identities.

Aries Anger and Libra Anger

Because Aries is about self and assertion, anger is easy to express. I’m me, I want this and you’re offending me.

Aries puts its cards on the table – anger is open.

Libra is about other, so expressing anger would cause a reaction in “the other” which will then reflect back onto Libra.

If you were filtering you emotions off of others, is anger the response you would instigate?

Libra, to create the balance it is seeking, pacifies. Because of that, the other is most likely to be the one to express emotions that Libra won’t express.

How does Libra moon get angry?

Libra doesn’t like anger because it’s out of balance and comes from a strong sense of self. Anger also may push away the other, which removes Libra from the comfort zone of partnership.

Libra, as an air sign, has the ability to rationalize (like Aquarius and Gemini, the other two air signs).

Moon in Libra, I find, rationalizes its emotions. If Libra moon is uncomfortable with anger and rationalizes its emotions, you will have a difficult time discovering what angers Libra moon.

Here’s a conversation you might have with a Libra moon:

You: Why did you slam the car door on the way home? Are you angry?

Libra moon: I didn’t slam the car door; I just wanted to make sure it closed tightly since we were parked on a hill.

You: In the car, you barely spoke to me. You always talk.

Libra moon: You said I talk too much so I wanted to see if you were happier when I was quiet.

You: Why did you sleep on the couch then?

Libra moon: I know my snoring bothers you, so I wanted to give you some peace and quiet.

You: Why are you angry with me?

Libra moon: I’m not angry. I just want you to be happy.

Lacy returns

When Lacy returned from her litter box, I asked why she walked away.

“I had to go to the bathroom,” she said.

“You were angry,” I said. “Admit it.”

“I wasn’t angry,” she replied. “I was ignoring you.”